Celebrate Yourself

Celebrate Yourself

This is the time of year when people will gather around graduates and congratulate them on the achievement of earning a diploma. It’s really great when you get to the end of a goal and everyone comes around you to say “good job”. The problem is you don’t always need a “good job” when the goal is reached. Sometimes you need it on your way to the goal. Sometimes you need a push on days when you don’t think you can reach the goal. Hopefully, you have someone who will support you on those days, but if you don’t you still have to find a way to keep going. I suggest you “Toot Your Own Horn”. Look yourself in the mirror and remind yourself of who you are. Maybe you are a really good friend. If so, pat yourself on the back for that. Maybe you worked on a project at work that really turned out well. If nobody said” great going”, don’t worry about that. Perhaps you took the opportunity to handle a conflict with someone in a healthy way and you took the high road. Give yourself a hooray! There will be times when the greatness of you goes unnoticed for a season, but the most important opinion of you should be the one you have of yourself. I’m sure there are areas that could use improvement, that’s true for all of us, but while you work on those things give yourself some credit for what you are doing well. Teddy Roosevelt put it best in his poem “The Man in the Arena”. You can read it...
NO Power!

NO Power!

 We’ve all seen toddlers as they learn new words.  “No” is usually one of the first words these sweet toddlers learn, and they say it with such conviction and confidence with no regard for how the other person will feel.  The funny thing is that conviction and confidence fades over the years as we learn about feelings and pleasing others.  As we grow up, we want to “fit in” and be accepted.  We don’t want to feel like we have let anyone down.  Unfortunately, we don’t always think about whether or not we are letting ourselves down.  We don’t think about being true to our own feelings, wants, and preferences.  I’m not suggesting that we should become self absorbed blow-hards, but I am suggesting that balance is best. There are definitely times when a “No” is a balanced approach to living. There are times that “No” has to be the word that comes out of our mouths even though it may not be a popular response with our colleagues, friends, or family.  How do you know if you might have a problem with saying “NO”?  Consider these examples: Frequent feeling of being overcommitted:  Do you find yourself in charge of several committees?  Do you find yourself on the guest list of many parties as you run from one to another?  When asked “Is that okay with you?”  Do you say “Yes” when it’s really not? Do you feel frustration because at the end of a day or the end of a week you cannot think of anything you have done for yourself? Do you agree to open your home...

About Us

My Counseling Philosophy Most of us would never think of buying a beautiful, brand new dream car and driving it for ten years, 100,000 miles, without a tune-up, oil change, or tire rotation.   Most of us would laugh at a person who thought that driving through the local car wash to clean and beautify only the outside of the car would keep the car running in the most optimal way.  We would completely understand if that car started to break down, malfunction, and eventually quit.  Think of life as that car.  We cannot just run around “living” and keeping everything beautiful on the outside without some inside maintenance.  My counseling philosophy is that every one needs a tune-up on the inside.  My job is to help you tune-up your life in the area that is causing you a problem.  There will be times when there may be a complete crisis and there may be times when there is just a little something that needs a little tweak.  I will help you through either one of these situations. I will support you through the process, and the process will be worthwhile.   Education/Personal   Elizabeth earned a Bachelors degree from Indiana University and went on to earn a Master of Arts degree in Mental Health Counseling and School Counseling from Indiana Wesleyan University.  She is a member of Chi Sigma Iota Honors Society and The American Counseling Association.  Elizabeth is a Licensed School Counselor and a Licensed Mental Health Counselor by the State of Indiana.   Hobbies Elizabeth’s hobbies include spending time with her husband and extended family, playing board...
HAVE SOME PRIDE

HAVE SOME PRIDE

The role of mother calls for much sacrifice and care.  When you spend your day kissing boo-boos and slicing peanut butter and jelly sandwiches, it can be easy to forget all about the person you were before you became a mom.  The woman in your rear view mirror deserves a ride in the front seat sometimes. Remember her? She loved cuddling up with a good book or catching a movie.  Her laugh could light up a room, and she loved the company of good friends.  If you find yourself getting lost in the shuffle, don’t start 2011 in that same cycle.   Put yourself on your own “to-do” list this year. It’s great to be proud of your children’s accomplishments.  I know you are proud of every beautiful art project that adorns your refrigerator, and there’s nothing like the excitement of seeing your child kick that soccer ball through the goal for a point, but this year make sure you have pride in your own life too, as a woman separate from your life as mom.  Some may ask, “Elizabeth, how in the world do you expect me to do that? I’ve got a kid hanging off of each extremity!”  Others may say, “I don’t even know who I am anymore.”  That’s OKAY. Take a deep breath and keep reading. Hopefully, you’ll get your second wind. Let’s look at the word pride.  Some think of pride with a negative connotation, but pride can be healthy for you.  One of the definitions in the Merriam-Webster dictionary is “a reasonable or justifiable self-respect”. Building on that definition, I made an acronym to...
Family Planning

Family Planning

We’ve all heard the phrase “family planning”.  Most of the time when we hear “family planning” we think about a conversation regarding when to have children or how many children to have.  Let’s change the connotation of this phrase to something else.  Let’s start to have a vision for our families.  Let’s start having a plan for the type of families we will be and the type of people that will be developed in these families. I’ve created this acronym to help you remember what a plan really is.  A plan is a Purposeful Layout of Actions Needed.  Here are some actions that will help create a strong family: PLAN THE MARRIAGE:  When a man and a woman become engaged the planning of the marriage sometimes takes a back seat to the planning of the wedding.  Many Americans spend months even years planning for one day, but It is important for an engaged couple to sit together and write what each person envisions for the family that is about to be created.  As each person begins to write their plans, it’s important to note which areas both people agree on and which areas pose a difference.  When differences are discovered it’s important to talk openly and honestly about the difference and reach a comfortable agreement for both people. There are some essential issues to discuss during this time.  Consider questions like how will we solve problems with in-laws?  Will we have children?  Will we practice the same religion?  Consulting a counselor during this process is very beneficial.  If you are already married it’s not too late to do this...