Are You Coachable?

Yameen Chestnut, MA yameen@thewelltoday.com Set Appointment Now 317-471-8996 Are you “COACHABLE” within your relationship? Okay, so considering the upcoming NFL Super Bowl featuring two talented teams being led by two phenomenal quarterbacks, I thought it timely to reflect on the concept of being coachable within relationships. What exactly is “coachable”? Well, in terms of sports, it’s generally related to how well the athlete can listen to the coach’s instructions, absorb the concept, practice the skills and apply them in a game or competitive situation to achieve a score or defeat one’s opponent. In terms of relationships, let’s apply the very same concept. The communication and exchanges between two partners can be thought of as plays. Within that communication exists prompts, cues and signals; some overt while much is often covert. The ability to decipher, categorize and translate those exchanges can make or break a relationship. Just as in sports, how able are you to recognize what your partner is communicating on the field? How much time have you taken to reflect on areas where you are likely miscommunicating, or as I like to think of it, studying “game tape?” In order to defeat the foes of judgment, defensiveness and criticism, one must be flexible and open to improvement and the realization that quite often, what you see or hear from your significant other isn’t necessarily so. As I ponder what makes someone coachable, I can’t help but to think of that athlete that is humble, hardworking, sacrificial and selfless in their attitude, traits that we all could show a little more of. Habits that if practiced with each other...

What you WON’T do for LOVE: The Non-Negotiables of relationships!

Yameen Chestnut, MA, NCC yameen@thewelltoday.com Set Appointment Now 317-471-8996 In every relationship there are negotiating points: give and take, push and pull; you scratch my back and I’ll scratch yours. It’s a simple “dance”, if you will, of trading for your wants and needs, and compromising. One gives what they don’t mind giving in order to get what they individually want and need. This “dance” has a point of demarcation, an ending point in which fairness, rules, and anything less than equal gets snuffed out by the unfulfilled partner. Let’s be frank, a person can only put up with so much before they “break”! In other words, there is a point in negotiating where no matter what is being requested, a compromise is utterly unattainable. Question of the day: When you think of some things that you simply won’t put up with, simply won’t negotiate on, or better yet must have, what comes to mind? What are some of your “must-haves” and non-negotiables? In past relationships, what would you not negotiate on and what were some things that you had to have in order to remain a “happy camper”? If you and your partner are having a hard time sorting through your must-haves and non-negotiables contact The Well today. We are ready to help! (317) 471-8996  ...