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9 Things Your Tween NEEDS To Know Now

The rocky road of those middle years between 9 and 12 can take a toll on the whole family! Connecting with tweens can feel a little like walking through a landmine at times. Looking for a good way to connect with them, review some of these “facts” in a casual way over the next few days and start the conversation. Click here to read...

What’s On Their Minds: Common Mental Health Concerns in Children

This year, on my end of the year survey/needs assessment, I asked teachers what topics they wanted more information on related to professional development. The three most requested topics that came up were behavior plan creation and implementation, mental health diagnosis in children and classroom culture. In preparation for the upcoming professional development sessions, I will be covering each of the topics on the blog in my Summer PD Series. Today’s topic is Common Mental Health Diagnosis seen in children. Next week is Behavior Improvement Plans. Happy reading! According to WebMD, nearly 5 million children each year are diagnosed with some form of mental illness in the United States. That equates to about 20% of kids or in an average classroom of 30, as many as 6 students having a diagnosable mental illness. These diagnoses can dramatically impact both the individual student’s success, but also the overall classroom function. While neither diagnosis nor treatment of mental illness in children is the role of the classroom teacher or school counselor, providing appropriate support for these students can have a positive impact on the school environment on a whole. Below are several common diagnosis that can be seen in schools and some ways that school personnel can help. Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) As the most common behavioral/mental health diagnosis in children, ADHD can also be misunderstood and hard to manage. Because of symptoms like inattention, hyperactivity, disorganization and impulsivity, ADHD can be a highly visible and distracting diagnosis for classroom teachers to manage. Some kids also display daydreaming or attention seeking behaviors. Other common symptoms seen are conflict seeking, low...

Are You Coachable?

Yameen Chestnut, MA yameen@thewelltoday.com Set Appointment Now 317-471-8996 Are you “COACHABLE” within your relationship? Okay, so considering the upcoming NFL Super Bowl featuring two talented teams being led by two phenomenal quarterbacks, I thought it timely to reflect on the concept of being coachable within relationships. What exactly is “coachable”? Well, in terms of sports, it’s generally related to how well the athlete can listen to the coach’s instructions, absorb the concept, practice the skills and apply them in a game or competitive situation to achieve a score or defeat one’s opponent. In terms of relationships, let’s apply the very same concept. The communication and exchanges between two partners can be thought of as plays. Within that communication exists prompts, cues and signals; some overt while much is often covert. The ability to decipher, categorize and translate those exchanges can make or break a relationship. Just as in sports, how able are you to recognize what your partner is communicating on the field? How much time have you taken to reflect on areas where you are likely miscommunicating, or as I like to think of it, studying “game tape?” In order to defeat the foes of judgment, defensiveness and criticism, one must be flexible and open to improvement and the realization that quite often, what you see or hear from your significant other isn’t necessarily so. As I ponder what makes someone coachable, I can’t help but to think of that athlete that is humble, hardworking, sacrificial and selfless in their attitude, traits that we all could show a little more of. Habits that if practiced with each other...

What you WON’T do for LOVE: The Non-Negotiables of relationships!

Yameen Chestnut, MA, NCC yameen@thewelltoday.com Set Appointment Now 317-471-8996 In every relationship there are negotiating points: give and take, push and pull; you scratch my back and I’ll scratch yours. It’s a simple “dance”, if you will, of trading for your wants and needs, and compromising. One gives what they don’t mind giving in order to get what they individually want and need. This “dance” has a point of demarcation, an ending point in which fairness, rules, and anything less than equal gets snuffed out by the unfulfilled partner. Let’s be frank, a person can only put up with so much before they “break”! In other words, there is a point in negotiating where no matter what is being requested, a compromise is utterly unattainable. Question of the day: When you think of some things that you simply won’t put up with, simply won’t negotiate on, or better yet must have, what comes to mind? What are some of your “must-haves” and non-negotiables? In past relationships, what would you not negotiate on and what were some things that you had to have in order to remain a “happy camper”? If you and your partner are having a hard time sorting through your must-haves and non-negotiables contact The Well today. We are ready to help! (317) 471-8996  ...

3 Steps to Taking Care of Yourself Emotionally Part 3

Fulfill yourself. Webster’s dictionary defines fulfill as “to develop the full potentialities of”.  Are you reaching your potential? If not, you can start today.  If there were dreams you had about what you were going to accomplish or who you were going to be you can still reach that dream.  You can start by choosing the growth you want to make and then set reasonable goals to make those dreams a reality. What do you really want to do with your life?  Maybe you feel wonderful when you are a give to others.   You don’t have to wait until the holiday seasons to be charitable. You can find an agency that needs support and volunteer with them.  That’s a great way to develop your full potential in the area of giving.   Maybe you know you could write a book.  A book consists of multiple chapters.  A goal might be to type one page per day or one page per week until that book is finished.  This is a good time to ask yourself if you are reaching your full potential.    Don’t settle. ...

3 Steps to Taking Care of Yourself Emotionally Part 2

Enjoy yourself. Do you think you’re too busy to find time to do things you enjoy?  Is life moving so quickly you are just going through the motions?Maybe you are running children back and forth between activities or taking care of elderly parents. Maybe you”ve gone back to school and homework is time consuming.  If this sounds like you read on.  It’s easy to forget what brings you pleasure.  Can you take 30 minutes this week and do something that gives you joy?  If you have been putting yourself last it might be time to learn how to reconnect with activities that replenish you.  C’mon you’ve got 30 minutes. Have you taken time to read a chapter in a book you’ve been meaning to get to?  What about working a crossword puzzle?  Maybe it’s listening to some smooth jazz while drinking a cup of coffee.  Perhaps it’s taking a walk on a sunny day.  Whatever it is consider making a list of those things you used to like to do and plan to work your way through the list.  You can put one thing on your calendar per week to get started. Make that list.  Start...

3 Steps to Taking Care of Yourself Emotionally Part 1

Be kind to yourself.  Sometimes we are more kind to others than we are to ourselves.  Why is it we can cut other people some slack, but we don’t give ourselves a break?   Sometimes we can be so mean to ourselves.  We say things to ourselves we would never say to a friend. Would you tell a friend “you are so fat”? How about “you aren’t smart enough for that?”  I really doubt it.  If you do you probably don’t have many friends.  If you wouldn’t say it to a friend you shouldn’t be thinking it about yourself or saying to yourself.  Think about that this week.  Examine your thoughts. For example, consider what you think about your intelligence.  Stop comparing how you look to how other people look.  Improve your perception of your own worth.  Find something good about you.  Do this little exercise with me.  Find one thing you like about you this week, write it on a sticky note and put it on the bathroom mirror.  Pay attention to how you feel each morning when you read the great things you’ve got going for yourself.  You may find you’ve got a little pep in your step. Some of you may say “I don’t like anything about myself right now”.  If that’s the case give yourself credit for making the bed, not running a red light, or returning a friend’s call.  Start small and watch this pick up steam.  Let me know how it goes.  Email me at elizabeth@thewelltoday.com to let me know how it’s going.  Looking forward to hearing from...

3 Steps to Taking Care of Yourself Emotionally Introduction

If you followed me on Twitter last week (@thewelltoday) you saw a week’s worth of tweets about “Yourself”.  Some of the topics included “Be kind to yourself”, “Enjoy yourself”,  and “Fulfill yourself”.  I thought it would be a great idea if we picked up on that thought so follow my blog this week and read more about how you can take good care of yourself, emotionally.  If you’ve ever been on a plane you’ve heard the flight attendants say in the case of an emergency you have to put your oxygen mask on before helping your neighbor.  If you try to help your neighbor without helping yourself you both might die because neither of you will have oxygen. Many of us will say “no big deal, I’ll get to myself.  I can take it”.  Others of us will say, “Thinking of me first is selfish”.  I must say I would have to disagree with that.  What about self-care?  Isn’t it important to take care of yourself?  You are with your “self” always.  Your habits, thoughts, beliefs, history, mind, and body make up that self and they are with you always.  It’s important to take care of you too.  Let’s talk about some things you can do now to take better care of yourself.  A better you makes it easier to be a better neighbor.  Consider that the next time you plan on putting yourself last.   Tomorrow I’ll be writing about  step 1, why it’s important to be kind to yourself.  Tune...

Depression Checkup

Let’s do a depression checkup… When I was studying for my master’s degree I remember one of my professors describing the pervasive nature of depression through an analogy. She said it was like walking around with sun glasses on all of the time. Can you imagine having to wear sun glasses 24 hours a day if you didn’t want to wear them? It would be uncomfortable to say the least, maybe even irritating. Imagine you didn’t realize you still had your sun glasses on, but you couldn’t see things the way you wanted to see them. Anyone can experience a moment of “feeling blue”, but depression is more than that. Depression makes dark times darker and light times dark too. It can feel like something that cannot be overcome, but there is help for depression and it can be managed. Maybe something has seemed a little off, but you haven’t been able to put your finger on it. If you are currently experiencing more than one of these symptoms below and have been for more than 14 days you should consult a mental health professional for support. • Feelings of sadness or hopelessness that just seem to hang around • Loss of interest in things you used to enjoy • Irritability or restlessness • Feeling useless or worthless • Too much sleep or inability to sleep • Loss of interest in sex • Extreme fatigue • Impaired function at school or work • Tearfulness • No appetite or excessive appetite • Thoughts of death or suicide • Digestive issues without medical illness If you found yourself in these symptoms...