3 Steps to Taking Care of Yourself Emotionally Part 2

Enjoy yourself. Do you think you’re too busy to find time to do things you enjoy?  Is life moving so quickly you are just going through the motions?Maybe you are running children back and forth between activities or taking care of elderly parents. Maybe you”ve gone back to school and homework is time consuming.  If this sounds like you read on.  It’s easy to forget what brings you pleasure.  Can you take 30 minutes this week and do something that gives you joy?  If you have been putting yourself last it might be time to learn how to reconnect with activities that replenish you.  C’mon you’ve got 30 minutes. Have you taken time to read a chapter in a book you’ve been meaning to get to?  What about working a crossword puzzle?  Maybe it’s listening to some smooth jazz while drinking a cup of coffee.  Perhaps it’s taking a walk on a sunny day.  Whatever it is consider making a list of those things you used to like to do and plan to work your way through the list.  You can put one thing on your calendar per week to get started. Make that list.  Start...

3 Steps to Taking Care of Yourself Emotionally Part 1

Be kind to yourself.  Sometimes we are more kind to others than we are to ourselves.  Why is it we can cut other people some slack, but we don’t give ourselves a break?   Sometimes we can be so mean to ourselves.  We say things to ourselves we would never say to a friend. Would you tell a friend “you are so fat”? How about “you aren’t smart enough for that?”  I really doubt it.  If you do you probably don’t have many friends.  If you wouldn’t say it to a friend you shouldn’t be thinking it about yourself or saying to yourself.  Think about that this week.  Examine your thoughts. For example, consider what you think about your intelligence.  Stop comparing how you look to how other people look.  Improve your perception of your own worth.  Find something good about you.  Do this little exercise with me.  Find one thing you like about you this week, write it on a sticky note and put it on the bathroom mirror.  Pay attention to how you feel each morning when you read the great things you’ve got going for yourself.  You may find you’ve got a little pep in your step. Some of you may say “I don’t like anything about myself right now”.  If that’s the case give yourself credit for making the bed, not running a red light, or returning a friend’s call.  Start small and watch this pick up steam.  Let me know how it goes.  Email me at elizabeth@thewelltoday.com to let me know how it’s going.  Looking forward to hearing from...

3 Steps to Taking Care of Yourself Emotionally Introduction

If you followed me on Twitter last week (@thewelltoday) you saw a week’s worth of tweets about “Yourself”.  Some of the topics included “Be kind to yourself”, “Enjoy yourself”,  and “Fulfill yourself”.  I thought it would be a great idea if we picked up on that thought so follow my blog this week and read more about how you can take good care of yourself, emotionally.  If you’ve ever been on a plane you’ve heard the flight attendants say in the case of an emergency you have to put your oxygen mask on before helping your neighbor.  If you try to help your neighbor without helping yourself you both might die because neither of you will have oxygen. Many of us will say “no big deal, I’ll get to myself.  I can take it”.  Others of us will say, “Thinking of me first is selfish”.  I must say I would have to disagree with that.  What about self-care?  Isn’t it important to take care of yourself?  You are with your “self” always.  Your habits, thoughts, beliefs, history, mind, and body make up that self and they are with you always.  It’s important to take care of you too.  Let’s talk about some things you can do now to take better care of yourself.  A better you makes it easier to be a better neighbor.  Consider that the next time you plan on putting yourself last.   Tomorrow I’ll be writing about  step 1, why it’s important to be kind to yourself.  Tune...
Depression Checkup

Depression Checkup

Let’s do a depression checkup… When I was studying for my master’s degree I remember one of my professors describing the pervasive nature of depression through an analogy. She said it was like walking around with sun glasses on all of the time. Can you imagine having to wear sun glasses 24 hours a day if you didn’t want to wear them? It would be uncomfortable to say the least, maybe even irritating. Imagine you didn’t realize you still had your sun glasses on, but you couldn’t see things the way you wanted to see them. Anyone can experience a moment of “feeling blue”, but depression is more than that. Depression makes dark times darker and light times dark too. It can feel like something that cannot be overcome, but there is help for depression and it can be managed. Maybe something has seemed a little off, but you haven’t been able to put your finger on it. If you are currently experiencing more than one of these symptoms below and have been for more than 14 days you should consult a mental health professional for support. • Feelings of sadness or hopelessness that just seem to hang around • Loss of interest in things you used to enjoy • Irritability or restlessness • Feeling useless or worthless • Too much sleep or inability to sleep • Loss of interest in sex • Extreme fatigue • Impaired function at school or work • Tearfulness • No appetite or excessive appetite • Thoughts of death or suicide • Digestive issues without medical illness If you found yourself in these symptoms...
Celebrate Yourself

Celebrate Yourself

This is the time of year when people will gather around graduates and congratulate them on the achievement of earning a diploma. It’s really great when you get to the end of a goal and everyone comes around you to say “good job”. The problem is you don’t always need a “good job” when the goal is reached. Sometimes you need it on your way to the goal. Sometimes you need a push on days when you don’t think you can reach the goal. Hopefully, you have someone who will support you on those days, but if you don’t you still have to find a way to keep going. I suggest you “Toot Your Own Horn”. Look yourself in the mirror and remind yourself of who you are. Maybe you are a really good friend. If so, pat yourself on the back for that. Maybe you worked on a project at work that really turned out well. If nobody said” great going”, don’t worry about that. Perhaps you took the opportunity to handle a conflict with someone in a healthy way and you took the high road. Give yourself a hooray! There will be times when the greatness of you goes unnoticed for a season, but the most important opinion of you should be the one you have of yourself. I’m sure there are areas that could use improvement, that’s true for all of us, but while you work on those things give yourself some credit for what you are doing well. Teddy Roosevelt put it best in his poem “The Man in the Arena”. You can read it...
NO Power!

NO Power!

 We’ve all seen toddlers as they learn new words.  “No” is usually one of the first words these sweet toddlers learn, and they say it with such conviction and confidence with no regard for how the other person will feel.  The funny thing is that conviction and confidence fades over the years as we learn about feelings and pleasing others.  As we grow up, we want to “fit in” and be accepted.  We don’t want to feel like we have let anyone down.  Unfortunately, we don’t always think about whether or not we are letting ourselves down.  We don’t think about being true to our own feelings, wants, and preferences.  I’m not suggesting that we should become self absorbed blow-hards, but I am suggesting that balance is best. There are definitely times when a “No” is a balanced approach to living. There are times that “No” has to be the word that comes out of our mouths even though it may not be a popular response with our colleagues, friends, or family.  How do you know if you might have a problem with saying “NO”?  Consider these examples: Frequent feeling of being overcommitted:  Do you find yourself in charge of several committees?  Do you find yourself on the guest list of many parties as you run from one to another?  When asked “Is that okay with you?”  Do you say “Yes” when it’s really not? Do you feel frustration because at the end of a day or the end of a week you cannot think of anything you have done for yourself? Do you agree to open your home...