HAVE SOME PRIDE

HAVE SOME PRIDE

The role of mother calls for much sacrifice and care.  When you spend your day kissing boo-boos and slicing peanut butter and jelly sandwiches, it can be easy to forget all about the person you were before you became a mom.  The woman in your rear view mirror deserves a ride in the front seat sometimes. Remember her? She loved cuddling up with a good book or catching a movie.  Her laugh could light up a room, and she loved the company of good friends.  If you find yourself getting lost in the shuffle, don’t start 2011 in that same cycle.   Put yourself on your own “to-do” list this year. It’s great to be proud of your children’s accomplishments.  I know you are proud of every beautiful art project that adorns your refrigerator, and there’s nothing like the excitement of seeing your child kick that soccer ball through the goal for a point, but this year make sure you have pride in your own life too, as a woman separate from your life as mom.  Some may ask, “Elizabeth, how in the world do you expect me to do that? I’ve got a kid hanging off of each extremity!”  Others may say, “I don’t even know who I am anymore.”  That’s OKAY. Take a deep breath and keep reading. Hopefully, you’ll get your second wind. Let’s look at the word pride.  Some think of pride with a negative connotation, but pride can be healthy for you.  One of the definitions in the Merriam-Webster dictionary is “a reasonable or justifiable self-respect”. Building on that definition, I made an acronym to...
Family Planning

Family Planning

We’ve all heard the phrase “family planning”.  Most of the time when we hear “family planning” we think about a conversation regarding when to have children or how many children to have.  Let’s change the connotation of this phrase to something else.  Let’s start to have a vision for our families.  Let’s start having a plan for the type of families we will be and the type of people that will be developed in these families. I’ve created this acronym to help you remember what a plan really is.  A plan is a Purposeful Layout of Actions Needed.  Here are some actions that will help create a strong family: PLAN THE MARRIAGE:  When a man and a woman become engaged the planning of the marriage sometimes takes a back seat to the planning of the wedding.  Many Americans spend months even years planning for one day, but It is important for an engaged couple to sit together and write what each person envisions for the family that is about to be created.  As each person begins to write their plans, it’s important to note which areas both people agree on and which areas pose a difference.  When differences are discovered it’s important to talk openly and honestly about the difference and reach a comfortable agreement for both people. There are some essential issues to discuss during this time.  Consider questions like how will we solve problems with in-laws?  Will we have children?  Will we practice the same religion?  Consulting a counselor during this process is very beneficial.  If you are already married it’s not too late to do this...